Self sabotaging behaviour In the first few years of our lives, we learn the ‘rules’ of how to behave and think in a way that allows us to survive. This is the time when we learn what we should do, what we can’t do, what we have to do, in order to be accepted, loved, to belong, and to receive…
IS THIS ALL THERE IS TO LIFE? It’s natural and normal to reflect on your life, and sometimes big life events such as key birthdays or milestones make you do this more, encouraging you to question what you’re doing and why. Hopefully, you feel pretty content and happy with where you are and where you’re going. However, when you are…
So you know the phrase work hard, play hard? Well, if that means anything to you and it certainly does to me then you might want to know what the scientists have discovered and have to say about that. Studies have shown that when you are constantly working, when you constantly have your head down on the task or the…
Recently I was interviewed by Penny Smith for Talk Radio. Here is what we said. Penny: Well, it is almost September, lots of schools going back on Tuesday. Parliament’s back on Tuesday. Why do we still get that back to school feeling as adults? That is a question that we’re going to address now and we’re going to address it…
Back to school syndrome You’re feeling a nervous, jittery anticipation of something – you just don’t know what…you have an urge to change something, your appearance, your job – just something. But hold fire – if you’re not careful you could be unwittingly about to make a very big, very expensive, mistake. I’ve seen it – people completely switching careers,…
Dave: Talking about this back to school syndrome. I don’t know about you. I’m just feeling a bit. I just felt it the last week, like this nervous anticipation of something, and I’m looking in the diary and there’s nothing. I mean, it’s just, you know what I mean? But after years spent in the school system, we’re mentally programmed…
If lockdown has made you question a lot of things in your life, then I can help you clarify exactly what you do want and don’t want in your life and career post lockdown and how to make it all happen now covid has forced many of us to look at our lives and question a lot of things…
Imposter syndrome and how to overcome it You’re a fake, you’re a fraud and you’re about to get found out. Is this something you tell yourself on a regular basis despite all of the evidence and all of your achievements otherwise? If so, then you might be one of the millions of unfortunate people who suffer from impostor syndrome. Now,…
How to say no professionally Just say no. Easier said than done, I know and especially now. It’s really, it’s harder than ever to create your own healthy boundaries around your time and energy and this is because all of our natural physical boundaries have all been taken away. So the time when you were travelling, you were unavailable. The…
How to control negative emotions Anger, fear and sadness. The three main categories of what we view as negative emotions. Now if like me you’ve been feeling some of these or a lot of this is over the last three weeks, know that there is a really effective technique of dealing with them, and we all tend to have a…