Because difficult emotions can be so unpleasant we often try and rid ourselves of them as quickly as possible (I know I did). But we can choose to change our emotions – even the difficult ones. If you do this, you will dramatically change your life. These difficult or ‘negative’ emotions are the ones we all experience at one time…
Feel stuck and depressed The knowledge that in any given moment we all actually have a choice was the first major realization I gained through my own experience of coaching. Up until that time, possibly like you, I felt that I was at the mercy of certain things in my life. I really thought that there were many circumstances that…
Conversation with future self Do you know those articles where they ask celebrities what advice they would give their 20-year-old self? Well, this is the equivalent, only you get all of that great advice and wisdom from yourself in the future – right now. ‘Future Self’ is a great tool and I have been using it with my clients ever…
Self sabotaging behaviour In the first few years of our lives, we learn the ‘rules’ of how to behave and think in a way that allows us to survive. This is the time when we learn what we should do, what we can’t do, what we have to do, in order to be accepted, loved, to belong, and to receive…
How to improve leadership communication? Well, it turns out – quite a lot! The atmosphere at work is not always good. Competition, different attitudes or bad manners challenge people’s patience. Other behaviours that create a negative workplace include distrust and resistance to change. However, the heart of the issue often stems from a lack of leadership from the top. How…
Why does fear exist CONQUER From the Latin conquirere meaning to ‘gain, or ‘win’; to successfully overcome, take control of. What would you do if you knew you could not fail? What would you do if you weren’t so afraid? And what would you do if you didn’t care what people thought? This chapter is all about revealing the fears…
A key to unlocking a deep sense of ‘rightness’ in your life is discovering your ‘purpose’. By this, I mean what you are here to do, why you are here and the nature of your contribution to the world. We all have a purpose, we all have a unique contribution to make to this world, at this time When I…
By imagining your ideal life – the things that would bring you joy, satisfaction and use your full potential – you have described a life that reflects what you value most. Values are what is most important to you, what you most care about, what makes you tick. This is important because when we are living a life according to…
I trained with the Co-Active Training Institute (CTI) and one of their core principles is fulfilment. They believe that we all have a yearning for something deeper – a fulfilling life with meaning, purpose and satisfaction. How does that sound to you? Possible? Far-off? Does this apply to what you are doing with your life? And most importantly, why would…
I think it’s time to rebrand the ‘midlife crisis’. I like to call it ‘waking up’, and I see this as a completely positive life stage to go through. Or rather it can be. If you know what’s going on under the surface. If you use this time in your life to question, re-evaluate, and do some challenging work around…